I don’t think teachers know what they’re doing.


At my triplets 4th birthday party our middle triplet got a tummy ache. She was standing in the middle of our living room when she got “the look”. It was all coming up. As she began to throw up, her preschool teacher flew across the room (seriously, I think she had a super hero cape on) and actually caught my daughters vomit in her hands.

“Um, did you just catch my daughter’s vomit?”

“Yes, what was I else was I supposed to do?”

She then spent the next few minutes helping me clean up what made its way to the floor and what made its way on to my daughter.


That was my first experience with one of my children’s teachers going way beyond their job description.It wasn’t my last and I can bet that there will be many more.

A few weeks ago two of my teenaged daughter’s teachers picked her up at our house and took her to lunch just so that they could spend time with her. It’s their summer break for crying out loud! They actually chose to spend their time off with a student, a student that hasn’t been in their class in 4 years. They were simply reminding her how much she is loved.

Dedication above and beyond.

When the triplets were in 1st grade our autistic daughter was going to have a substitute for the day and it made me panic. I told the P.E. teacher how worried I was that Justin was going to have a hard day. About lunch time I received a text from her that read “Just checked on Justin and she is all good!”.
This woman was in the middle of her work day but stopped to make sure my daughter was okay and to send me a word of comfort.


I was in the middle of getting my tires changed at the worst place on earth and my blood was already boiling. When my phone rang and I saw that it was my daughter’s teacher my heart sank. She calmly explained to me that my autistic daughter was having an epic melt down in the hallway at school. She said that she had never seen my daughter this way. She went on to tell me that the principal came out of his office, sat down next to Justin and asked her if she needed a hug. This wonderful man sat on the floor with my daughter and hugged her until she was okay.

Unmeasured compassion.

During another melt down in her classroom Justin’s teacher got on the floor with her, wrapped her arms around her and sweetly talked her down. The entire time this was going on she had 20 other students in the room to contain but that did not prevent her from comforting my child. She managed to continue to teach and focus on all of the students in her class and still make sure the singled out little girl felt safe.

Sincere Love.

Every year in April I have a Stella & Dot fundraiser to benefit our local autism foundation. These women are the first ones to show up and the last ones to leave. They all bring their checkbooks and do not hesitate to spend their extremely hard-earned dollars to help  this cause that is so dear to our family. I think we all know that they are not paid enough and I can assume that they are on a budget but that never stops them on this day. I then see the beautiful autism bracelet adorn each of their wrists for the rest of the year.

Amazing Support.

Justin’s first year in school her principal, teacher and special education teacher made a trip to our house after school hours. They brought cookies and a book. They wanted Justin to see them as people outside of the school and wanted Justin to be able to show them her world at home. I mean really, who does that?

I don’t know if my family has just been blessed with the best teachers in the entire world or if all teachers stretch themselves far beyond what is expected.

Every one of their teachers past and present is included in our prayers. My children are in love with these angels in their lives.

Myleigh cried all night the day her teacher went into labor because she was so worried about her and her baby.

Myleigh tells us all the time that her teacher can’t stop smiling and how much she loves her because of it.

Stiles 5th grade teacher still has a framed picture of her in her classroom and Stiles has the same one framed in her room. Stiles is now in 9th grade.

Bella’s teacher honored her at a PTA meeting for being an outstanding student in the community.

These women are paid to teach my children academics. They are paid to administer tests. They are paid to teach reading , writing, history and whatever else goes on at school that I don’t have the ability to teach at home.

They are not paid to show up at my house and spend their hard-earned money on jewelry to show support to my autistic daughter.
They are not paid to catch my daughters vomit in their hands.
They are not paid to sacrifice one of their summer days to take my teenager to lunch and show her unending support.
They are not paid to sit on the floor and rock my child during a melt down.
They are not paid to create amazing special education tools for me to take home in an effort to make my daughter’s life easier.
They are not paid to show up to a snow cone place late at night with their family to support my daughters homeless ministry.

I don’t think teachers know what they’re doing.

They don’t know that they are building the confidence of my teenager as she enters the dreaded high school years.
They don’t know that they are showing my family what it means for a community to gather together and support each other.
They don’t know that they are loving on a child so much that she lays in bed at night and cries because her heart is so entwined with her teachers.
They don’t know that there’s a little girl out there determined to name her son William because that’s what her favorite teacher did.
They don’t know that a little girl cries out their name to her parents when she is scared and needs to be comforted.

I don’t think teachers know what they’re doing.

My my family is in the process of moving to our new home. I took all of the pictures off of the triplets walls and left them bare. This morning I went in to wake them and found a picture of Justin and her teacher stuck to the wall where the other pictures used to hang. I told her that we were packing and that we had to take stuff off of the walls. She replied “I know, but that’s me and Miss Cooper.”

The picture will be the last thing to leave our old home and makes it way to our new one.

374 thoughts on “I don’t think teachers know what they’re doing.

  1. I wonder if you children attend school in Texas? I wonder because mine attend in a town south of Dallas TX. My children have also had AMAZING teachers!! I wonder often if they know how great they are, I tell them every chance I get!! Feeling greatful that my children love going to school because they are loved when they are there!!

      • I live in San Antonio. What district are they in, If you don’t mind me asking. My children are about to start school and I’m hoping they have wonderful teachers like this.

      • My career was as a counselor in NEISD. I have worked at many school in the district during my career and as a sub since I retired. Most staff members fit your description exactly. As a matter of fact, one of the Castle Hills teachers was my now 33 year old daughter’s teacher at another school. We always felt indescribably blessed.

      • My daddy is a teacher in San Antonio. And he is wonderful!! Actually he is in Kirby at the middle school there.

      • I also live in San Antonio and my kids are in NEISD at Lee HS. Our experience is completely different. My child with autism has just failed the entire year. The school is the only place he shuts down and tbe h refuse to believe it. One administrator commented to my son “You will never make anything of yourself.” After that, he believes that he shouldn’t even try. I am heartbroken at the treatment. One day two months ago, it was a testing day. I got a call at home that woke me up after I had just worked a 24 hr shift, and I was chastised and pretty much called a bad parent for not sending him to school on a test day. Well, I went to find him and he wasn’t here. I texted his brother and found out he went to school. THEY lost him! It was terrifying nor knowing where he was! No apology was issued for the many times they have called me a bad parent.

      • Heather that is absolutely horrible that you and your son are treated like that. I hope you can find a new school for him with teachers who treat you both with dignity instead of condemnation.

      • How Cool!! Loved this article. I teach at Windcrest and my kids (one autistic and one just crazy teenager) go to Wood. Great schools with wonderful staff. God bless!

      • We are in NEISD. Our son was diagnosed, through the district, a few years ago with a Math disability. We often have ARD meetings to discuss the IEP and the best way to help him learn. His special educators, teachers and counselor’s go above and beyond to help him. He’s in 5th grade. His current teacher will call or text me personally to let me know how he’s doing. He always has positive things to say about our son even though he knows he has a difficult time focusing. We just had him go through a Psych evaluation to better help him. We get those results in a couple of weeks. We got the results of our daughter’s evaluation last week. She’s a Jr at Churchill. She has been re-diagnosed with ADD. She now has elevated anxiety and panic attacks with a little depression added to that diagnoses. She has just recently started to not want to go to school. I sent her results to the school counselor that has been working with her since Freshman year. He is having the school and her teachers make it to where she just has to go to class to be counted present. They will then allow her to go to the library to do her school work, if she feels anxious. I tell you all this to say that there are many great educators, counselor’s and people in the schools that truly care for our children. Like with Candice’s experience, we have seen the blessings and individual time that these wonderful people have poured our to our children. God IS Good 💜 👑

    • I teach and have for 28 years. Your comments makes me appreciate parents. All the things you are grateful for are just things we do as teachers everyday because we would want someone to do that for our children and grandchildren. I never knew how many parents really appreciated those moments we try to give all students. Thanks for noticing!!!!

    • Thank you beyond measure for this heartfelt post! As a teacher AND a mom, I am so touched and truly appreciate that you took time from an obviously busy schedule to reach out and show such love! 💙 Thank you for being a dedicated parent and for your kindness!

  2. She is truly an amazing woman and teacher. I have known her since we were 5. She loves her students unconditionally and speaks so highly of them both in and out of the classroom. The wonderful personality that you see in her classroom is the way all the time. Thank you for writing such a sweet message about such an incredible woman.

  3. What a wonderful tribute to to teachers! I have been a teacher for 25 years and am so blessed that former students send me wedding and baby announcements, military promotion announcements and so much more. Being a teacher is so much more than just teaching the academic material! These kids become one of your own. I’m glad your children have been blessed with caring teachers. And yes, I live in Texas too!

  4. Another awesome reason why my family should move to Texas! Out of all the teachers/educators my girls have had, the collective compassion and caring from all of them wouldn’t fill a juice box! It’s great to know that there are teachers out there who truly care about their students 🙂

  5. Thank you for this! As teachers many of us wouldn’t think twice about doing anything for our students, it is nice that’s appreciated. With so much negativity about us lately it’s really heartwarming to read your story!

    • I agree completely. I’m a 6th grade teacher and sometimes the negativity from outside of school wears us down. Thank you for the reminder that what we do matters.

  6. Dear Precious Mom: Thank you for taking your time to write this amazing letter! I’ve been reminded once again that God “called” me to teach! Everything I get to do for and with students of all ages is a wonderful gift from Him!!

  7. Thank you for sharing! Lovely story, but there are “amazing” teachers all over the US. I myself have been in some of those situations…….on both sides. I think it is a wonderful , natural instinct!

  8. My daughter went to Catholic school up until 5th grade. I was so worried about sending her to public school for her last year of elementary. She is also my most sensitive child. We were blessed to have an awesome teacher, who took a special interest in my daughter, but I think she did that for all kids. All year, she built my daughter’s self esteem and confidence, especially in math! I believe in a Catholic education but the best teacher my kids have had was her in public school!

  9. Thanks for sharing your story. I was a special education teacher for 32 years. It’s always nice to hear that someone appreciated what you did for their child, or that your boss and peers appreciated what you did for your students.

  10. This is wonderful. Our oldest son, who just turned six, was diagnosed with speech delay and other speech issues as well as Sensory Processing Disorder within a few months of turning four. It was hard on us, but we have always had a great support system with us with our friends, mostly from church. One such friend is a kindergarten teacher, and she teaches at the school district our son attends (we too are in Texas). We were able to choose his teacher last year, and naturally we picked her. I don’t think I could have sent our son to school had he not had her. She knows him, loves him, and will do what she can to help him. She hasn’t always seen him at his worst — meltdowns seem to be saved for home — but she knows he struggles with certain tasks (especially change of any sort) and would heap praise on him for what would seem basic tasks for other kids. She has been to his birthday parties, and we even met up and took our kids (her youngest is my oldest son’s age) to see the new Planes movie earlier this year. Any time I had concerns or questions, I could text the teacher. She was quick to send me pictures and texts letting me know how our son was doing on field trips (one was to a bounce house place, and she even managed to get our son into an empty bounce house for a couple of minutes. That was a big deal!). We couldn’t have picked a better teacher for our son.

    Our son, though, is having to repeat kindergarten this coming year. It was something we were sure would happen going into the school year, but it wasn’t an easy decision to make. What if he got a teacher who did not understand or care? I met with his [then current] teacher and the principal, discussed how our son does not like change, our (mine and my husband’s) fear that our son might regress if he changes teachers and buildings (some kindergarten classes are in a kindergarten only building while some are in the elementary building), and the like. After a lengthy discussion, the teacher and principal both recommended a specific teacher. She has worked with kids with speech issues like our son before, and if both of them and the speech therapist independently recommended this teacher, then I knew she would be good. I have had the chance to talk with her on several occasions, and feel comfortable with her. More importantly, our son really likes her. She is his teacher for a summer reading program currently underway, so he is getting a chance to spend time with her in a small setting, and in what will be his new classroom at that. She has already expressed how excited she is to have our son for next year, and we have already exchanged phone numbers. I am still a bit nervous about all the change for next year (I’m not too keen on it either), but not like I was. I dread the day that we can no longer choose our son’s teacher, but with a great team of people on our side — past and current teachers, the principal, and the speech therapist — I am sure that our son’s best interest will always be taken into consideration.

  11. Wow this is wonderful. So thankful you posted. This only proves to me that I am in the BEST profession! It is the most difficult yet most rewarding profession out there. I am so glad you shared your story. I teach in San Marcos CISD. I have what we call an Intesive resource class of 6 students in fourth and fifth grade. Many of my students have autism. I may not make home visits but I love them like they are my own and I pray for each of them daily. I worry about their home life. When they have a tough day I wonder what I could do to make things better. My husband and children know them by name. I try and ignore all the bad publicity out there about public schools because I know there are GREAT teachers out there! Not to toot my own horn…but I am one of them!!

  12. Some techers just go beyond their job description and truly care about the the children they teach. We need to hear more stories about the good the teachers are doing because alot of the time we just hear the bad.

  13. That is beautiful. My wife and I are teachers. We know dozens of teachers that behave this way every day of their lives without even thinking about it. Thank-you for celebrating the teachers you know!

  14. You just described the type of teacher I want to be after I graduate college 🙂
    We absolutely need more teachers like this!

  15. As a teacher that loves going to my kiddos events and being involved with their families, this blessed my heart. I don’t do these things because of the thanks, but it’s because the teenagers I am lucky to spend my days with become so entwined within me. I miss my kiddos a whole lot during the summer, and my parents and students know they can reach out to me whenever they need anything. Teaching is the absolute hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I can’t imagine being happier doing anything else. Thank you for writing this. Thank you for getting to know your children’s teachers. Thank you for responding to their texts, and for allowing them to remain in your children’s lives. Thank you for praying for them. Thank you for trusting the teachers and not always looking for ways to catch them up. Parents like you help teachers like us create the partnerships that we crave.

  16. I am a teacher and I just invited a student and her sister and mom over for an art day at my house — I saw them at the grocery store. We know what we are doing — we are loving, teaching sharing our lives with people who count. We do know.

  17. What a beautiful story. As I work hard to get my degree in Early Education, I pray that I can be even a third of what these teachers are because that is what they should do – love their students unconditionally, as our Teacher loves us.

  18. Thank you for taking the time to write and share your story. The politicians and media need to hear more stories like yours. I am a Kindergarten teacher who falls in love with each of my students every year!!

  19. A great article. I kept thinking, they can’t be in California where I am, as most teachers here would never do those things unless they had a bargained agreement to get paid overtime for some of things you mentioned. My autistic child was never offered hugs, or reassurances, instead was always sent to the principals office for not being responsive the way the teacher wanted him to be. This last year was horrible with a teacher straight out of college, who did not ever have experience with autism or disabled children. While I realize teachers are stretched thin here, its the little things that would make such a difference. It could be just our district too, as I know many teacher friends who go above and beyond for their students. Just not in Livermore CA 😦

    • Despite the fact that I’m in the UK, I can say with confidence as someone who experiences those kind of people quite a bit at school, that these people need to have more open minds. It’s not a lack of knowledge that’s causing it, it’s just that they’re not bothering to try and be better at understanding.
      Nobody at our school goes quite as far as hugs or visits, but they let you stay in class for sometimes an hour after the end of school, or at break, just to talk. You can keep cakes in their cupboards and chat to them via email in the holidays about work (or other stuff). Their reason for going that extra mile? “If we don’t, who else will?”
      (Sorry, this post just really speaks to me)

  20. Thanks for sharing! What a great story! And as a teacher, can I say thank you to all those parents who say thank you to those teachers that go above and beyond. Many parents think their kids have great teachers, but seldom actually tell those teachers! Those few words mean so much! I can’t tell you how may times I’ve been moved to tears by a parent who shares how grateful they are for making their child’s first year in school so great! It costs nothing but means so much! ❤

  21. I am a teacher and have been struggling with some of my feelings of not being appreciated. I am looked down upon by friends and family for being “just a teacher”. This post…has encouraged me and challenged me to be the best I am be every day all day. Inside the classroom and outside of it. I’m so honored to be in a profession with people like the ones your children have had.

  22. It was teachers like those described above that made me choose teaching as my career. They helped to shape me to become the person who I am today and the teacher who I have become. My son has been blessed with teachers who are just as loving, devoted, and inspiring. Teachers really do shape the future and become part of a family. Here in NJ, I often hear such negativity about teachers, yet I know so many amazing educators. From both sides–Mom and Teacher–I thank you for writing this uplifting, positive piece. You made my day!

  23. Wow that is amazing and I’m only in high school and that just changed my outlook on life and all special children that is amazing shout out to the teachers

  24. I envy people who had those kinds of teachers. I’m sure my sisters do a great job as teachers but my experience growing up with the exception of 1 teacher was always negative. I felt like the teacher was the biggest bully in the classroom and created more damage than good for me. Important that good ones stay but bad ones gotta go

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  26. I absolutely adore your article! I attended Castle Hills throughout my elementary years and it’s because of my teachers there that I chose a career in education! In fact, all 8 of my siblings went to Castle Hills and one is in his last year there. I know Miss. Cooper and a few other amazing educators at the campus. They’re truly a special bunch and I’m so happy you took the time to sing their praises. I love my job!!!

  27. My son was recently diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. He is six. Your story made me cry this morning in the hope my son is always surrounded by such love from his teachers too.

  28. You are so interesting! I don’t believe I’ve truly read through something
    like that before. So nice to find someone with some unique thoughts on this subject matter.
    Seriously.. thanks for starting this up. This
    web site is something that is needed on the internet, someone with a
    little originality!

  29. I am a teacher and I try my best to support my kids in all aspects of their lives. I go to football, soccer, baseball and basketball games. One year I went to many football games and took pictures of one of my boys playing. I was usually the only one there for him. I printed the pictures and gave him a cd with all of them on it. I wouldn’t do it any other way because they are my children.

  30. A refreshing read. I believe that’s what our children’s school experiences should be like. But for all of the teachers commenting here and saying “of course we do those things” please remember that there are many who do not fit that bill. My son is going into grade 5 and has already had two teachers who have not done, would not and probably could not do any of the good things mentioned above. It’s pretty obvious when your “Mr. Social” 6 year old starts having night terrors and begs to be home-schooled (something he had never even been aware of) that there’s a problem in his classroom; it turned out to be a disengaged teacher. It was a very long year.

    That being said, please know that I also sing the praises of those great teachers he has had so far, making sure the teachers, the principal and the rest of the administration know how I feel, and how thankful I am. I myself had teachers like that, and, 36 years after I left public school, am still in touch with many of them, or even their children.

    These good stories definitely need to be told, and good teachers deserve praise and recognition, that’s for sure. But we can’t gloss over or ignore the fact that some people need to get out of that profession. For the sake of the children.

  31. This is wonderful! I’m starting my 2nd year teaching special education. I am in North East @ Eisenhower. This post is so amazing and I thank you for the recognition of all our hard work. I think it’s engrained in us to do whatever it takes to help a child succeed we know the cost and time invested will be more than worth it for the child and family in the end.

    Michelle B
    Miss, hey Miss

  32. Wow! It is so great that you have these kind of teachers but even better that your shared your appreciation of them!

  33. My granddaughter diagnosed with Down syndrome and autism was in second grade and she had a “weird” seizure (staring and shivering) which lasted about 7 minutes just as she was being put on the bus. An ambulance was called but my daughter’s dear friend beat the ambulance there and the teacher satin his truck with London for the ride for the emergency room. One of the aids drove her own car following the truck to the hospital. The third aid was heart broken because she had to stay with the other students who were boarding buses! What dear hearts our granddaughter is exposed to daily!!!!

  34. If you want to rate a teacher, don’t give them a battery of test designed by politicians. Wait twenty years to see how their students have managed their lives, then you’ll know.

  35. We have some great teachers. My son as one teacher he invites and she comes to every birthday party. I have now met her husband and two kids and now watch them grow up. She never fails to give my son a big hug. On the first day of school there is a line of returning kids outside her door to get a hello hug before they start the new year. She has touched many heart. I have seen the best teachers and a few not so great, but it is the great ones that will live in my kids and my hearts. Bless all of you out there who take the time and care.

  36. Reblogged this on Selling My Life… and commented:
    This is an amazing post by a parent who gets what we do everyday. A teacher is part of many families. We too, help raise children. For us it’s not about the money, it’s about changing lives. Our influence goes far beyond one school year. I especially know this is true after receiving a letter from one of my first grade students. She shared the difference I made in her life and she enters a prestigious Highschool. I never felt so proud. Read below. This is an amazing blog post.

  37. So touching! Had me in tears! As a professional in the education field, it always very rewarding to have our haRd work recognized! We don’t look for tangible gifts, although they are great and it’s appreciated, just a simple, kind act like this blog post, qualifies as the best present ever. We DO go above and beyond the call of duty, but that’s what it should be all about anyway! I love each and every student I have ever encountered and treat them as if I birthed them. After all, we have them 178 days a year for several hours a day, in my mind, they are my babies to and I will teach, love, and protect them as such! I LOVE THIS BLOG POST!!

  38. This was beautiful. I’m so glad your children have been blessed with the type of educators they deserve, and I appreciate your willingness to share.

  39. My kids had similarly great teachers at Eisenhower Elementary School in Indiana, PA, but from the sound of things those positive experiences weren’t unique. It takes a rare breed of individual to accept a job in which the hourly compensation isn’t much better than what a laborer earns, only to be constantly under-appreciated by a small but vocal minority of parents and used as pawns by unscrupulous politicians who constantly undermine job security, call for wage cuts and staffing cuts, decreased benefits, and better results–as per arbitrary testing–with continually shrinking resources. My hat is off to all of them.

  40. It’s wonderful that your daughters had such wonderful teachers. but, am I a bad teacher because I refuse to touch vomit? Or because I prefer ( for legal reasons) not to socialize with students outside of school or to “love on” them? Or because I choose to spend my money on formula for my baby rather than trinkets that I don’t need? (I do think your teacher and your principal handled your child’s meltdown beautifully.) you are a parent who APPRECIATES sacrifices teachers make. A lot of parents and administrators demand it or, at best, look down on those who can’t handle vomit or can’t afford fundraiser items. It just sets an impossible standard for “average” teachers.

      • Agreed. No one said anything about what you do as a teacher and whether its better or worse that what these teachers did. The article is not about comparing. I’m sure your sacrifices are there, even if they go unnoticed. I’m also a teacher.

    • To Jessica Wren. I am a teacher as well and I don’t believe that an impossible standard is being set. I believe that if you love what you do and you love your students it just happens. Good (even “average”) teachers just naturally nurture. It is just what we do! You don’t think twice about hugging your students. You do it because they need a hug. You comfort them because they need comfort. You clean up their vomit because you know you would want someone to do it for you or yours. I see from your picture that you have a child of your own. I wonder? Which type of teacher would you prefer to have for your child when he or she begins school? Would you prefer a teacher who keeps him/her at arms length because of “legal reasons” or a teacher who nurtures and takes care of his/her needs?

    • Just because some teachers feel they don’t measure up to the “impossible standards” some teachers set, doesn’t mean those teachers should not continue to set those standards. If it make you feel bad, do something about it, accept it, or get another job. But don’t tell others to stop setting the bar so high. The things described in the article come from the heart, if you don’t feel it, don’t do it.

    • I agree. Don’t compare….it only tears down your own esteem. I’m sure there are a great number of things you do for your own students on a daily basis that makes a difference in their lives and their parents’ lives. I have yet to meet an “average” teacher, btw. 😀

    • Great article. Thanks for sharing. I am a retired teacher- the memories never go away and they comfort me as I get older.

  41. My husband taught for 31 years. When he died recently we received hundreds of emails, Facebook notes and even a newspaper article stating how much he helped each person, how they loved to be in his classes, even how they didn’t like the subject, but loved him. The word Love came up over and over again! He was a gentleman, a gentle man, a dedicated teacher who actually loved his kids, and they knew it. I only wish he had been able to read the wonderful comments his former student had to say and how many claimed he actually influenced their futures in a positive way. Send your child’s teacher a note telling them how they are appreciated. Have one day where every child in the room writes how much they like their teacher. I’m certain it will be deeply appreciated.

  42. We truly don’t (know what we’re doing)! A lot of what I do isn’t what I signed up for and certainly isn’t in my job description. I love kids, plain and simple. Thank you for the kind words.

  43. I loved reading this! I am a teacher and absolutely love my job! We are so lucky to have the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of our students. So glad your kids have had such amazing teachers!

  44. Thank you for writing this. Don’t mind the negative comments by some of the teachers. Not all teachers are like the ones you’ve been blessed to have. I hope you emailed this blog to those specific teachers. Some teachers enteract with the whole child, not just academics. Its really nice when parents notice and appreciate all we do. May God continue to bless your family.

  45. Thank-you, Justin’s mom. You brought a tear to my eye. It is tough being a teacher in today’s corporate-driven education system. It is folks like you who help teachers get through these tough times and who help give them enough strength to continue to do their best for all our children.

  46. Thank you. Its nice when a parent recognizes what some teachers do because its natural to them. Teaching should not just be about academics. For me and others, its the whole child that is important: home life, academics and peer relationships. I hope the teachers you wrote about have seen this blog.

  47. On behalf of myself and all other educators, thank you for appreciating us. Your kind words have truly touched me and it means so much to know there are parents like you. This is why I love my job, and continue to do it everyday. To know I make a difference for even one student a year, is enough for me. God bless you and your family!

  48. Thank you. As we, teachers, get ready to begin another school year, it is nice to know that there are people who realize that we really do love our jobs and your kids!!

  49. I think all teachers want to be and start off as these type of caring individuals. I think the regime at large kill it in most of them. I can’t think of a single teacher I have ever had that didn’t inspire me in some way. Imagine what they could do if their hands weren’t tied to testing, results, and more testing.

  50. Reblogged this on Educated Fun and commented:
    A great piece about all those wonderful teachers who have come into our lives. It’s so easy to remember the negatives, but keep your eyes open for all the beautiful, lovely teachers out there who dedicate themselves to our children!

  51. As a retired 3rd generation teacher. Most teachers think of their students as theirs from the day they come in their classroom until they die. It’s not that we think we just do everything we can to make sure their (our kids) learn everything they can not just about our subject but life too, and to do this we have to connect with each of them in their own way.

    I had many “bad” students that were angels for me and made good grades too, they just needed to be reached.

  52. Beautifully written. It just reminds me how important my job is. The impact we have on a student’s life can be beautiful or tragic. This is a great encouragement to give my very best to my students!!

  53. I want to thank you for writing this heartfelt article. So much negativity is being said about teachers these days, its nice to hear positive comments about the profession. Your kids have been blessed with many great educators and it seems like those same educators were blessed with an amazing family to work with. I have saved this post to read again when I am feeling defeated. Thank you again for sharing your positive experiences. Allison (first grade teacher, Indianapolis, Indiana)

  54. Beautiful! With all the negative publicity teachers are receiving, this was truly a breath of fresh air! I am a special education teacher, and I feel so blessed because I am able to work with my angels (yes, some even have horns to help hold up their halos :D) for several consecutive years (K-5). I love the relationship the children and I develop, which lasts beyond elementary school, because I know them – and they know me. I am their school mom, and many just call me mom eventually 🙂 True, it can be a difficult position, as I work in a low socioeconomic district which causes additional trials, but I’d never dreamed of having such a rewarding career!

    • My daughter is becoming a teacher in the USA, and its great to see all the positive comments about teachers. My daughter had a few horrible teachers who really broke her spirit at times, here in Africa. However I have always said that my daughter should do something in life that she really loves, and that way it won’t feel like work. She enjoys young children and wants to be someone who builds up children. After all you have so many wonderful keys you can give children when being a teacher like, hope, encouragement, kindness and thoughtfulness. You may not realise it, but you are making a difference to someone’s whole life, when you build them up!!! Thanks to all you teacher who do this and go the extra mile. God bless you.

    • It is sad that you would say such a thing. Do you know by witness that these educators aren’t doing these things for their other students as well? My third grade teacher was like those spoken about. He impacted my life more than any other educator I have encountered. He took a personal interest my life and gave me a passion for learning where there had been only shame and a feeling of ignorance. He knew my family by name, all of them. Eleven years later when he had my youngest sister in his classroom he still knew me though we hadn’t spoken in a decade. The thing is….he did this for all of his students. I wasn’t the only one. He was a gifted man with a heart for children and education. I am 32 yrs old now. I still remember the set of his classroom, the lessons taught and the way he looked when he stood at the front of the room and told us stories of his time teaching in China. My point Sir or Madame is, that it is possible and very common for a teacher to touch the lives of each and every one their students on a fundamental level without sacrificing even one mind. It does not fully fall to the teacher, the student must choose whether he or she wants to be reached.

  55. Thank you for this article. I read it in late July,while on summer vacation at the beach. It made me SO eager to go back to school next month! this will be my 28th year year in the classroom with first graders, and I absolutely love it.

    • Admittedly, Justin wouldn’t be my first choice for my daughter’s name, but for Heaven’s sake… “Yuck” ?!? What about this story or that sweet little girl’s picture says “yuck” (other than the vomit part, LOL) ?

      there’s a lot more to take from this story besides the names of the children involved.

  56. My daughter is in her 13th year of teaching. She loves each of her students like her own. Sometimes during the year she will talk about “her kids” I have to ask yours or at school! She started out with first grade for 6 years then kindergarten 4 years, now she is in her 3rd year of sixth grade! The kids she taught the first year in 6 th grade still come to see her and talk to her about their home problems to peer problems knowing she will try to help and not judge them about any of it! Teachers are very special and I am so proud that I am a parent to one!

  57. I am a teacher as well, and I loved reading this. I want to acknowledge you as well, because I can tell that you are involved in your children’s education AND supportive of their teachers. While I know that there are bad apples in this field, I know too many beautiful teacher souls to accept that “bad” is the norm. Of all the parents claiming negative experiences for their children, I wonder how many are truly looking for and assisting positives. Thank you for sharing your positives so selflessly, and I hope you know what a huge part of that is due to you!

  58. Thank you so much for your kind words. You are right – we don’t know what we are doing at times, we just do it. Our students become “our” kids. We love them, wear clothes that can accept a variety of body fluids with ease, smile when we hear our names screamed in joy across a crowded store, spend sleepless nights concerned about our students, and love them every day. We may not always show that love but I still remember what my students taught me on the first day that I was the teacher – just love and respect us.

  59. More teachers would be like this if they were not legislated on how exactly to think and act around kids.

    I had a kid in class who had been in mental hospitals and could go off in a moment. I kept cough drops on my desk for any kid who wanted them. Every day he would come in the room, fake a cough and ask politely for a cough drop. It kept him quiet and we never had any incidents in the class. Next year came the state law “It is against the law for teachers to give kids any food.” With one stroke of the pen I was no better than a drug dealer. I used to bring fruit and donuts for my students. Never again. The govt, through schools, wants complete control of how citizens are raised, from the awful school lunches to the mind warping. (Columbus was NOT our friend, the founding fathers had this fault and that fault, etc.)

    • I agree completely! One of my favorite motivators for my least motivated students used to be homemade cookies ~ chocolate chip, oatmeal, and sugar. I would tell them if they all handed in their work, I would make them cookies. I didn’t tell them how long they needed to hand in their work for before I would bring the cookies…. they would work and wait for me to make a big batch of cookies and thank me until the cows came home!!! Now I am the worst person on earth if I even THINK of bringing in such contraband!!! School lunches are tossed in the trash, I can’t bring in motivating cookies, the students are overly stressed out due to the CONSTANT testing, but I am the culprit here…. and I am very leery of hugging or touching students because I could very easily lose my job if I do so….
      However, all of that said, from the day those kids enter my room they become “my kids”. I always have (and always will) referred to them as that. My family and friends are always confused about which ones I am talking about…. the ones I gave birth to or the ones I spend most of my day with…..

  60. Double tears since I’m not only a teacher, I’m the mom of a beautiful little girl (a twin) with autism who is starting kindergarten next week. I have seen the amazing gifts of teachers and students from both sides. Thanks for posting this!

  61. Our daughter is a teacher and we are always so proud to say that. Teachers have always been our heroes. We were a military family and it was the teachers who helped our girls transition into their new schools and surroundings. Bless them.

  62. As I begin my very first year of teaching in a few (very short) weeks, I can’t help but be so thankful there are parents out there like you. I hope to be someone that becomes more than just a teacher to my students. I hope that my students can look to me for guidance with more than just educational topics and I really hope that I can become part of their family. Thank you for this great reminder as we get closer and closer to “Back To School” season!

    • Sarah
      Welcome to the best and some days most frustating lifestyle/job ever. I’m entering my 17th year and am as excited as I was that first day in 1998. I don’t know what grade you’ll be teaching but no matter how big or small “your kids” will be, keep in mind that you cannot reach them without their trust. Give them respect in order get it, but firmly and gently stick with your expectations, and when you know them (depending on your age group) “love on” and so affection in the most appropriate way possible. I’m lucky. My principal and assisstant principal hug and show affection to us as their staff and our students daily.
      As a first year teacher ask many peers for advice, then go with your gut. There is so much the didn’t teach in college. Find a mentor you respect, you might be assigned 1, but that doesn’t mean you have you be their mini-me. Keep it simple, have only a few rules that you can enforce. Examples are: “Be brave” (saw this somewhere)- to fail, to try something new, to stand up to bullies, to be successful, to do what’s right… I use “Be willing to make mistakes”- that also encompasses respect, effort, preparedness, and I say almost every day, “If you aren’t making mistakes, then you aren’t learning anything new.”

      Sorry for the novel.

      Good luck and happy learning, cause you are going to learn way more than you teach this year.

  63. From a special education teacher, thank you! This post had me in tears and was a reminder of why I go to work each and every day.

  64. I just graduated high school and I can say I was blessed with teachers like this. As I go into my first year of college I will always remember the teachers I had in elementary on up. I’m also going to to go to school to be a special education teacher and I’m so excited and although I have a while before I finish college and become a teacher, I know that when I finally get to do it I’m going to be that kind of teacher kids hold a special place in my heart and so do missions and teaching to me if basically a mission its self so I know I’m going to love it even more when I think about that.

  65. August is coming. I have 26 kids headed my way. I pray that I can be a difference-maker to my kiddos. Thank you for sharing your story – it touched my heart.

  66. I saw this post on one of my friends Facebook wall, from Nebraska, and immediately recognized Justin from pictures in the clinic. Your writing touches the soul… You have a gift. Much love to you and your sweet family.

  67. Thank you for such a lovely tribute to your daughter’s teachers. I taught years ago and loved everyone of my students. I now substitute in the school district my daughter attended. As a sub I am blessed to be with the students year after year and am truly able to watch them grow. I am lucky; students, teachers and principals like me. One of the nicest compliments I have ever received was from an 8th grader who said she felt cheated because she only knew me for 2 years. I am excitedly looking forward to another year.

  68. So, what about the other kids in the class who are waiting for the teacher to reign this child in? Taking valuable class time to accommodate one child. What sort of extra effort is going into helping the ‘over achieving, middle class kid whose parents are working their butts off to make ends meet?’

  69. Wow. I’m preparing to start my 19th year teaching. I still think about students from my 1st years. (In fact, I was searching on FB last week for one in particular that I remember well.) I can only hope that I make a difference for my students. I try to. I absolutely adore my middle school science students, and hope that some of them will remember me as fondly as your kids think of their teachers. Thanks for the smile!

  70. What a beautiful story! I have had the same experience with some amazing teachers. I also what to say I think it is way cool that you named your daughter Justin I as too am named Justinn (just with an extra n) and am female. I have never heard of another girl with my name.

    • Hi Justinn with an extra N. Thank you so much. Unfortunately I’ve received several negative comments on her name. She is named after her uncle and I love it. Thank you so much for the sweet comment. Looks like the girl justin(n)s turn out to be awesome women

      • I love this name as well. It was on my list for my youngest girl but somehow got worked off the list. Feeling a little pang of regret…lol

  71. I am a mom (first) and a teacher (close second). Your post made me cry. Beautiful writing, heartfelt. Thank you for sharing those thoughts with the world.

    • Yes, I completely agree. I too am a mom, first and a teacher second. I love my students not because I have to; it’s because I can’t help but love them! Thank you for your kind words. We do not do what we do to get a pat on the back, but it is nice to hear it anyway. God bless you.

    • This made me cry as well! I was a teacher and now am a stay at home mom of two kids. We are lucky to have such wonderful teachers. Both of my children had the same preschool teacher and para for two years each. Next year my little girl will have my sons former kindergarten teacher. Last year my son had the pleasure of learning under the school districts teacher of the year. I appreciate everything these teachers do. I know how hard it is to be a teacher. And I am amazed at how wonderful and caring our teacher have been. I couldn’t even thank their teachers except in a long hard felt letter which I dropped off not before sobbing on the last day. They instilled a love of learning in my children to the point that they can’t wait to go back to school. I love teachers!

  72. As a teacher about to begin the 25th year of my career, this makes my heart happy! Thanks for being among the few who truly see how most of us feel about your/our children!

    • If we’d have had teachers like this, I’d not have needed to homeschool.
      You are truly in a wonderful school- and I hope highschool is as amazing!

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  74. Some teachers really don’t know what they’re doing. I had a teacher that humiliated me, that lectured me, that told my mother that I was rebellious, disruptive, and would never amount to anything in life. She made me dread English throughout my K-12. I reflect on how terrible she was as a person and how a person who wouldn’t have had an IQ scaled at 154 may have given up. Not all teachers dedicate themselves to the well being of their pupils. I wish they did.

    • You are right, Jordan, not all teachers do care (and I say that as a 61 year old teacher, mother, and grandmother who has seen my fair share of uncaring people in the world). But, there are more good apples than bad in the teaching world. Those of us who really do care and who treat our school children just as we treat our “at home” children find peace in this article and will keep it close by to remind us that our mission of working with kids is appreciated.

    • I am so sorry to hear of you traumatic experience with that teacher. I have had “bad” ones too. Teachers are just people and some people abuse power and intentionally enjoy stressing out others. It is the ultimate abuse of emotional power for teachers have the opportunity to lift you up or tear you down. You will never forget the feeling from either attitude. Another hurtful attitude is not caring at all, calling you by your older sibling’s name or not making any connection. Please put your feelings in their place and let them go.

    • That can be said of any profession. I am a teacher and I stay awake nights worrying about my students and planning things for them to do as well.

      I am also a mother of 2 daughters. I adopted a policy a long time ago, if I wouldn’t want a teacher speaking or acting a certain way to one of my daughter’s then I should not speak or act in that way to my students.

    • Jordan, that’s exactly WHY I became a teacher. My Mrs. Cooper swore at us, humiliated us, and caused kids to actually hide from the school bus. However, there were many, many other teachers who were outstanding. Mrs. Britner volunteered her time to allow me to do an independent study with her, not because she knew I needed another Lit class, but because she knew I needed someone to talk to every morning. Don’t turn bitter because of one bad seed. Use that to make things better for others. This story had me in tears, because most of my colleagues do these very same things… Without ever thinking twice.

    • I agree. This is not the norm. My two siblings and I suffered great abuse at the hands of our parents. There were warning signs, plenty of warning signs, that our teachers should have been the first to catch. Not once, NOT ONCE in any of our 13 years in public schools did anyone ask any of us “are things ok at home?” Not once were we referred to anyone who could help. Not once were we even given a sympathetic shoulder to cry on. Not once were we offered food the many times we came to school empty-handed. I’m sorry, I know how much teachers love to toot their horns and say how awesome they are and how much they do for the children “without being paid for it”, but I imagine that the author experienced such outreach in her childrens’ school because she was present and involved.

      • Honestly it really depends on the school, community and teachers. I know plenty of teachers who go above and beyond and some that don’t. As mentioned before, you have that in any career. People who see the job as more than a job and people who are there to get paid and not much more. You just have to try to remember and cherish those who can try to make your life better and forget those who didn’t. Easier said than done but a much better way to live. It is unfortunate that no one saw the signs or if they did, didn’t do anything. I can tell you from experience of people I have worked with that there are a ton of teachers who would have asked those questions and would have done something. I have given up my own lunch for kids who didn’t have anything to eat, I took my own shirt off my back to give to a student so they could perform on stage with our local symphony, when I used to coach volleyball I would bring healthy snacks for the team to eat before practice because I knew there was one girl who was not getting enough to eat and I know plenty of people who would do and have done the same. I assure you that there are many teachers who look out for their students and see them as an extension of their family. Again, as in every profession, there are people who will not hesitate to go beyond expectations and there are people who will simply say that it isn’t part of their job. Please know that although you did not have any that provided you positive experiences, there are teachers out there fighting to make sure kids do get them.

  75. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story of kindness! As school is quickly approaching, it helps remind me what is truly important as a teacher. I plan to show this to other teachers. Thank you!

  76. When my son was in kindergarten, his teacher Mrs. Brown taught them lots of life lessons, taught them that the overweight child was no different than them, taught them that just because the boy with severe A.D.H.D., he was still the same as them. Some of the kids in the class struggled in 1st grade (depending on the teacher), my son was one of them, due to Mrs. Brown not being so focused on the “No Child Left Behind” curriculum, but to this day my son & I both remember & love Mrs. Brown, and feel like she taught the real “No Child Left Behind” curriculum. Unfortunately, the school saw differently & she ended up leaving to be a P.E. teacher at another school, I guess her boss didn’t have a teacher who taught her any life lessons. We need more Mrs. Brown’s in our schools.

  77. My daughter’s 2nd grade teacher invited her whole class to her wedding because she couldn’t imagine not sharing her special day without them. And my 4th grader was sad the entire last week of school since it was her last week with her teacher. You are so right, we are SO lucky to have teachers willing and wanting to go above and beyond ” just teaching” I do my hardest to tell them thank you because while I think they know what awesome teachers they are, I feel that verbally hearing those thank yous reinforce that we appreciate what an awesome job they are doing.

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  79. I laughed out loud when I read the first two passages. And by the ending paragraph I had a knot in my throat and tears in my eyes. Thank YOU. For being a teacher who teaches others about what I do for my living. About what I spent years at university learning to do. What my mother did for over 900 kindergarten and grade one students. What I do for our society. The tough kids? I love them the most. And it hurts me so deeply when I cannot help them enough. And so I fight with corrupt irresponsible government to regain a child-honoring society. Your blog post is the greatest gift you could possibly give us. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart.

    • Nicole I know what you mean about loving the tough kids the most! I feel the same way I had the biggest soft spot for the tough kids with the messed up home lives. They were distractions and difficult but I just wanted to protect them the most I think. I root for them to succeed!

  80. My daughter is entering 6th grade this year. I can count on one hand how many true teachers she has had an still have a thumb left. I love that the teachers and principle came to your house. My dream is to be a special education teacher and that’s one thing I have always said would help build trust and a relationship with a sated child. I’ve been through some major obstacles with my daughter and now starting with my son whom will start preK this year. But I lay in bed or drive down te road with my brain in overdrive thinking of new things I could try. I research many things to try. I feel like giving up a lot but I look at them and I get an ubundant anount of strength and energy to start again. You really have to adapt to all children. You can’t expect to start a school year with “this is how in doing things and everyone will learn it”. It doesn’t work that way. All children are different therefore you have to have a completely open mind on ideas. One of my daughters teachers even let’s all the kids come up to the front and work out a math problem because the way she teaches it may be harder for some and having 10 different ways to work it out will benefit everyone. I wish I could give all your children’s teachers hugs. They and the principle are truly Angels sent from above to help children. Not a good way to get a paycheck and still have summers and holidays off.

  81. Thank you for this story. I am a teacher and these stories and kids like your are the reason I teach. Good luck in your new home

  82. That’s great. Some teachers do nice things for your children. To make any kind of reasonable statement about how heroic teachers are you’re going to have to look to the kids who are not so “easy” to please, the kids with parents who don’t throw birthday parties and invite teachers, to the kids who might have an diagnosed learning disability and parents who are either too busy, or too lazy to care. In my experience (MEd and a PhD) teachers ignore the vast majority of their students, let them slip through the cracks, or actively sweep them under the rug because they are challenging. Yes, some teachers will catch your kids puke, but then, so will some postal employees, or bus drivers, or carpenters.

    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I completely agree with what you’ve experienced. I had a nephew at the very end of his 11th grade year; it was discovered that he’s in the 11th grade; entering 12th grade the next school year and he was reading at a 2nd grade level and could not do mathemathics pass simple multiplication. Now, just how did this happen. After some looking into, I found out that he had even passed these tests that students are having to take to determine if they receive their diploma. Surprisely, to find out; he’s an athletic. What kind of mess is this?. This it not an implication to all educators; I have seen some just like the one who cared about her student enough to catch the puke. I love hearing about educators who see their students just as their own.

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I posted my personal story before I even read this, and you have given me some validity as I know people are going to argue and say there’s no way that no teacher ever helped me or my siblings. But it’s true. With my un-involved parents, it was too easy to just sweep us under the rug.

      I’m going to take it a step further. The teachers I know now constantly complain about their challenging students. Students who are “challenging” through no fault of their own (“I have 3 kids in my class with food allergies! We can’t even have Reeces cups!” Seriously?! Get over yourself.) I get venting to your coworkers about hard days, but I am not a teacher. I don’t want to hear about your difficult students, because all I hear is “I became a teacher to make a difference in the lives of white, healthy, smart children whose parents are happy to be class mom and buy stuff for my classroom.”

  83. My first year teaching 8th grade was last year. It was towards the end of the year and after that much time with kids you become unconsciously attached! You can’t stand to see them mess up or fail!! One of my troubled boys was having a hard time he wasn’t getting along with anyone and was wanting to fight everyone! He was so smart and I just saw all that potential being trine away! One day he walked by my classroom and was yelling at another boy trying to provke him he started down the hall to probably jump him before thinking about how incredibly stupid it is to step in front of an enraged teenage boy I jumped in front of him and yelled for him to go into my class. He turned and punched a locker as in escorted him into my class which was empty except for a couple of other students there for tutoring. He went into the corner to wait for the campus officer and just cried. I had another suicidal girl that saw me as an outlet to talk to and open up to, she lived in a messed up family and wanted to protect all the adults around her from screwing up. They become “your” kids for that 9 months. Some hate you, some love you, you really change some and some you just can’t reach, but when you see them put and about in the future they are always “my” kids! I’m also a mom and that motherly instinct kicks in when ever you see them in trouble! It’s an amazing thing to think about when you are able to think about the amount of kids that you get to change even in the slightest way! I’m no trying to say that I’m a super awesome teacher I’m just saying it’s the hardest most rewarding profession I will ever love!!!

  84. I am an E.A at a Christian school, my fav part of our school is our ability to hug the kids! Best part of the day is walking in in the morning and running the hug gauntlet 🙂 this is a big hard world, there has to be a place for kindness for kids to feel safe in. Who knows, my telling someone I love them may be the only kindness they see that day. Keep it up good teachers!

  85. Another girl Justin here… I went 44 years thinking I was the only one! The upside of the name is that nobody forgets it.

    Lovely story, lovely sentiments. We love our teachers. and try to make sure they know how much they’re appreciated.

  86. As a child I always wanted to be a teacher and although it took me 40 years to achieve this goal … I am finally living my dream. BUT … I really didn’t know what I was doing. I thought I would be teaching children academics, but the truth is … I do more. I hope that there will be a child out there that feels this way about me, because I truly want what’s best for all children.

    Your story made me cry, and appreciate and value that I do have the power to touch the life of a family (and child) in a very powerful way.

    Thank you!

  87. When my now 34 yr old son was in Kg, two weeks before the end of school, his teacher was awful to him. He raised his hand abd asked to go to the bathroom. She told him to wait. He tried three more times. Finally he couldn’t hold it and he wet his pants. The teacher and the kids made fun of him. I was called to pick him up. I couldn’t make him face going back to that classroom,so I told him school was over for the year. What would make a teacher do something like that?

    • I am a teacher, and a mom…I had a teacher do this to my son as well, in KG and 1st grade. After the second time, I informed my son and his teacher that he had my permission to leave the classroom if they wouldn’t let him and then they could take it up with me. He didn’t miss any school feeling embarrassed about it because it wasn’t his fault. I didn’t teach my son to be disrespectful, but I wasn’t going to let him be disrespected either! Teachers sometimes try to control more than they can, like children’s bladders! And I love this story, by the way…I’ve been missing my school babies all summer!

  88. I am an education student getting ready to become a teacher and this helped me to remember why I’m working towards my two degrees so relentlessly, a needed reminder entering the second last year of my six year program – those of us who are in it for real are in it for this.

  89. Reblogged this on Dearest Depression and commented:
    This is absolutely beautiful. What a description for teachers to live up to! It takes quite a bit to bring tears to my eyes. This post was very successful in doing just that. As a teacher, this is the kind of legacy I want to live. Praise the Lord for teachers who see their job as a calling and not just an occupation or career. Thanks for a wonderful post!

  90. I am a mother of two and a high school English/ special education teacher. You’re right when you say “we don’t know what we’re doing.” When a student or parent reminds me of something I’ve unknowingly done to impact them I normally respond in an awkward way. As teachers and mothers, we just don’t think about our responses when we’re in the moment. We just do what we would want someone to do for our children. THANK YOU for thanking and being so grateful to the teachers in your and your children’s lives. That’s all we need and that makes it all worth it.

  91. Reblogged this on Utalentia and commented:
    I’m definitely going to have to come back and elaborate on this later, but for now all I’ll say is this, to all teachers: when you go that extra mile, no matter what it is – if it’s catching people’s puke or just letting someone sit in a quiet room for a bit with you – then you just need to give yourself a round of applause, because not everyone bothers like you do.

  92. Thank you for this. These are the comments/moments/memories that make the long, and sometimes very challenging hours more than worth the dedication. ❤

  93. I am a teacher and started a movement called Research, Teaching + Service for this very same reason. TEACHERS go beyond their call of duty and give of themselves, many times without anyone being grateful or appreciative to them. TEACHERS need inspiration and support! Anyone looking to be apart of a beautiful community and make a difference in teachers’ lives, please join us at http://researchteachingandservice.wordpress.com/

  94. This is absolutely beautiful. I have been teaching high school social studies for 5 years now, and I can’t tell you how much this touched my heart. I have students who hate my guts, but those are the kids who I hear from when they go to college and say “I finally get why you did {insert reason why they hate me}.” I got married this summer, and my husband (who is also a teacher) were blessed to have some of our former students attend our wedding. They cried with us, helped set up and break down, and show us love. You know why? Because they wanted to support us on our big day, the way we always supported them. I cried like a baby, and so did my husband. Please know much it means to have someone recognize our hard work and dedication, because at the end of the day, we love those kids like our own. I actually don’t have a desire to have my own children because I have at least 100 every semester that need my love and attention. Thank you again!

  95. While I am not a teacher but I am a full time home ABA therapist. This made my heart smile. I do know that when a teacher or therapist has the support of parents it is so much easier and enjoyable to go the extra mile for “our kids”. You have obviously made each and every one of your daughter’s teachers and therapists feel like you appreciate everything they do. Way to go Mom!

  96. What a great post. My kids also have awesome teachers! And one of my boys has autism. All of his teachers embrace him. It’s awesome

  97. Most teachers are great but my teenaged brothers history teacher called him eeyore in front of his whole class because of his pretty monotone voice. I couldn’t believe that and am glad to hear these other great stories!!

  98. These are wonderful teacher stories. I love to hear that there are so many caring people out there. I have been teaching for 12 years and I am always saddened by the teacher bashers. Yup, there are crappy teachers out there who don’t go out of their way to help anyone. We’ve all had them. We’ve also all had a crappy doctor with zero bedside manner. Have you every had your doctor come to your house to support a fundraiser or take your child for lunch? Not likely. I think that the point of this post is to remind people of the good that some teachers do that is not a job requirement. We also don’t need to be publicly patted not the back. It is just nice to be supported. I love my students. Once I teach them I am invested in their future, even when they are in another class. I care about who they will become, that they are safe and doing well. Some students even hang out at my house with my own children to get a break from their not so great home life. I have had kids, “slip through the cracks”, not because I let them, but because I did everything I could to get them what they needed and hit walls at every turn. And, yes, sometimes those walls are the parents. I am not denying anything that has been posted, because the rotten stuff happens and it sucks. A parent like this lady is obviously working as a team with her children’s teachers, not an opponent. That makes a world of difference. Thank you for sharing this.

  99. This touched my heart I have an autistic son. I worry everyday how school will be for him. He turns three in August then starts preschool shortly after and I hope his experience is as good as your daughters.

    My father is a retired army Sargent that teaches high school wood shop. As much as he complains about his students he has lots of fun with them as well.He has so many stories of the children coming to thank him at the end of the year.He had one student that was hard to work with that he had a sit down talk with that he had to straight out tell him if you continue on this way you will not graduate high school. You will not be able to do anything with your life. A couple years later that student stopped him in the hall and told him if you had not given me that wake up call I would not be graduating this year and told him that he expected my dad you come to his graduation.

    When my dad had open heart surgery he had several visitors every day from the principal of the school to his substitute teacher. When he finally was able to go back the students gave him overwhelming welcome back with hugs and tears all the way around. He thought he was the mean teacher but he now knows the kids love him. 🙂

  100. I hope that I encounter teachers like the ones u describe as my kids get older. They are only entering 1st & 2nd grade so only met a few so far, non like what u talk about though.

  101. Where I work, this is typical. Teachers have hearts of gold. Thank you for taking the time to recognize it in writing. 🙂

  102. Hello.. I feel that way too.. I had some bad teachers also.. I had two of my older sister favorite teachers.. Pick on me because I’m not my sister.. My sister like the subjects and
    I didn’t but I tried and all they did was pick on me .. saying that I will never make it in this big world.. After 30+ years out of school.. I’m better off than my sister.. Course.. We have our differences..

  103. As a teacher my self this made my heart melt!!! This is what teaching is all about, going beyond the classroom!!!! I love this story, and will continue to share it!!! God Bless your family and all the teachers connected with you!!!

  104. DANG it!!

    Where were THESE kinds of warm, compassionate and understanding teachers when I was in school?!? Why did I have to get ALL or at least, almost all the (or at least what seemed/seems like it) rigid, inflexible, compassionate, intolerant teachers, like my b*tch 1st grade teacher, who’d give me detentions pretty much every fricking schoolday (even likely knowing that I’d get hit at home because of it!) just because I couldn’t sit still in class for hours a time without moving or fidgeting!!

    Why couldn’t I ever get the teachers who’d give me hugs and hold me, instead of detentions? Where were the teachers to visit me at home (like the teachers of this author’s kids did) and spend time trying to get to know me, and understand everything I was going through at home, with serious illnesses of both parents and other trauma, instead of just sending home negative progress reports (complete with frowny faces colored in with yellow, orange, or red, depending on the severity of my “offenses”) and/or detention slips for parental signature and considering their job done?!?

    If I sound bitter & resentful, maybe I am. So sue me! 👺

    Maybe if I’d been lucky enough to have had even one TRULY GREAT teacher LIKE THIS (although not all the teachers I had over the years were “bad” per sé, still, IIRC, I don’t think there were ANY that could be called TRULY GREAT) I wouldn’t have felt like I was totally stupid & worthless for the majority of my life, in some ways even to this day — low, even non-existent self-esteem that was a major contributing factor in eventually becoming suicidal & self-injurious in HS and immediately thereafter! 😦

    Maybe if I’d had even JUST ONE, truly great teacher like this, I wouldn’t have gone from LOVING to read & learn to absolutely detesting school and actually having stomach pains and nausea most mornings — effects which still continue to this day (even though I’ve been “out of school” for years, I still get nauseous in the mornings when waking up — especially if I get up early in the morning, like around the time [6AM – 8AM] I’d have to get up to go to school) and maybe if I’d had EVEN ONE, just TRULY GREAT teacher like this, I wouldn’t have ended up dropping out of school before getting a college degree!!

    Seriously, WHERE were all these IMPECCABLE teachers during the around 20 years (counting the on & off years of college before dropping out completely) that I was in school from preschool to college??

    • I am so sorry that this was your experience. This is a reminder of the enormous impact that teachers can have on their students’ lives. I am not perfect, but I strive every day to show my students that I truly care about them. You deserved better. One of my dearest friends was told that she wasn’t “college material” by a guidance counselor. She wisely chose to ignore his advice. She earned her masters degree and is now a cherished guidance counselor of 12 years. My point is, you had a terrible experience and are justifiably angry. I hope that you can use this knowledge to give yourself the support you deserved back then. Prove them wrong and be glorious! For what it is worth, I’m a teacher and I believe in you😀

  105. Reblogged this on Of Words and Letters and commented:
    I love this. I miss the teachers who helped me along the way, encouraged me, inspired me, and gave me the confidence I needed when I was younger. And I am so incredibly proud of all my friends who are now teachers or going on to becoming teachers. You guys are amazing, and I truly admire you. Thank you for everything you do.

  106. As a teacher, I clicked this link from facebook. The only thing there was the title. I was fully prepared to be angry by others’ not understanding, based on the title. Yet, I want to read these things, so that I can have respectful answers prepared when someone approaches me who just doesn’t get it. However, rather than being angry, I am left in tears. This is what teachers do every day. If we didn’t care about the students, we would leave and make twice the salary elsewhere. Thank you for this wonderful tribute to teachers; thank you for understanding.

  107. Thank you. Yes, teachers like me and my peers do those things and more. It is just love for kids and wanting good for them. I go to their graduations, their weddings, have their children in class….one little boy chose me as his friend he was allowed to take on vacation. To FRANCE. Oh , there are so many more than me. But, here in Wisconsin, people take us for granted, denigrate us as greedy, our own governor tells the world we have no worth and need much more fixing to come up to his college dropout standards.
    So an article such as this…really priceless. Thank you. ❤

    • Easy….Gov. Walker never denigrated the quality teachers who did their jobs. He may have spoken of those who walked off the job to protest in the capital. He may have spoken of those who insist that without a union they can’t do their job. He may have spoken of those who insist that without extra funding they cannot do their job. Those of us who do our jobs on a daily basis and have done so for decades know that money does not teach students anything. Teachers do. You can take away the books, computers, buildings and desks. Take away their SmartBoards, laptops, whiteboards, smartphones, fieldtrips and free birth control. A real teacher will continue to do all of those things laid out in the letter above. Thank you. This summer I am facing health issues and might have to quit my dream teaching job…I pray every day that doctors fix me in time for fall in-service…so that I can give back to the community that saved me when I needed it. Thank you.

  108. What a precious story. I teach 6th grade Math and in an inclusion setting. I love it..I have had wonderful experiences over the last 31 years in four states including Tx La Ga Ma . I have never regretted my calling/profession. Unfortunately for students as well as us caring teachers, there are those that should be selling cars instead of working with children young or on the college level. Because of their attitude they miss out on the most wonderful relationships ever.. The love of the student for their teacher.

  109. Thank you so much for writing this article. I’ve been teaching for a year and I am so often discouraged when my family and strangers alike say “oh, you’re a teacher?” Or “why go into a field where you’re underpaid?” They don’t understand that the paycheck is the last thing on my mind when a student comes in looking upset and I wonder how I can make him feel better or when a student FINALLY grasps a concept they once struggled with. It’s the little moments that I’m paid with. Everyone should read this, I’ll certainly be sharing it. Thank you again!

  110. This is awesome. I’m studying to be a first grade teacher and stories like these make me hope that I can be just as loved and appreciated by families as your’s has been.

  111. I love this story. I am a homeschooling mom in Maryland. I love homeschooling, but started out of necessity. If our schools- any of them- had teachers this lovely, I probably would not be homeschooling, because they’re would be no need. You make me want to love in Texas! I wish other states/school districts could do whatever you all are doing. I feel so strongly that if, as a society, we’re going to mandate education, it should be good for everyone, not just those who can afford private school or are homeschooling. That’s waytoo manyawesome teachers for it to bea fluke. Y’all are doing it right down there! I wish others would follow your lead. Thanks for sharing.

  112. This article is beautiful. I watched my Mom as a dedicated education specialist while I was growing up, and never once did I get the impression that my Mom wasn’t aware every day of the sacrifice she was making for “her” kids. It is an unfortunate truth that less teachers every year are willing to make those sacrifices, but it is all the more touching when they do because they know exactly what they’re giving up, and they have decided that it’s a price they’re willing to pay…

  113. As a teacher, it makes my heart so happy to see others being recognized for what they do. Thank you for that. To respond to your comment that what we’re paid for is to teach, you’re absolutely right. However, I don’t think that’s why the vast majority of us went into teaching. As far as I’m concerned, I am also being paid to be there for those children in any way they need me. The greatest joys in my career have been loving 24 new children every year and watching each and every one of them grow and blossom. To have a little girl who was too shy around strangers to ask to go potty develop into a child who volunteered to say Grace at a large gathering of her parent’s friends. If I’m trusted enough to have those precious little lives in my hands every day, you can bet I’m there to love, comfort, sacrifice, and do anything at all every one of them needs. And yes, I’ve caught vomit in my hands on more than one occasion.

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  115. I feel like this person is complaining a little. Teachers are usually nice from Elementary school up to maybe middle school. My intermediate math teacher took me and several other students (males and females) with parents consent of him taking us out to see the movies and walk around the mall. This is simply a kind gesture. Teachers are not just teaching us pages from a book, they are also teaching social skills and how to interact with other kids that you usually wouldn’t. How to show kindness and even bonding for the sake of developing ones character. Be appreciative with the sort of teachers your daughters have! Unless you’ve been in a private school with nuns for teachers, you really don’t understand how harsh they are and that they are given permission to do what they call “disciplining”.

  116. As an educator who is about to start my 18th year thank you. Sometimes I wonder if I’m really making a difference. Oh yes and you have reminded me of another reason why I miss Texas.

  117. This was beautifully written! I have been extraordinarily blessed to teach for 33 years, ranging in ages from 4 to 10. I understand the importance of expressing the dedication, love and involvement teachers GIVE. I want to express that while we do certainly give out of the best places in our hearts, what we receive is far more than any one can fathom. My students and their families became my family as well. My life has been made better by knowing these children and their families-I invested in them and what has returned to me cannot possibly be measured. I am in contact with many of my former students-some who have their own children now. Imagine the joy I experience when I am introduced to their family! My eyes and my cup runneth over!!

  118. Why did this make me cry!? I am so glad that you guys have had amazing luck with teachers. Thankfully we have too (NISD) Not quite as amazing as yalls, but my oldest has some pretty awesome ones that have nurtured his love of school! Thanks so much for sharing!

  119. DANG it!!

    Where were THESE kinds of warm, compassionate and understanding teachers when I was in school?!? Why did I have to get ALL or at least, almost all the (or at least what seemed/seems like it) rigid, inflexible, compassionate, intolerant teachers, like my b*tch 1st grade teacher, Sandy DeMarco Gumtow (Sandy Mastrangel when I was unfortunate enough to be in her class) who’d give me detentions pretty much every fricking schoolday (even likely knowing that I’d get hit at home because of it!) just because I couldn’t sit still in class for hours a time without moving or fidgeting!!

    Why couldn’t I ever get the teachers who’d give me hugs and sit on the floor to hold me, instead of detentions? Where were the teachers to visit me at home (like the teachers of this author’s kids did) and spend time trying to actually get to know me, and understand everything I was going through at home, with serious illnesses of both parents and other trauma, instead of just sending home negative progress reports (complete with frowny faces colored in with yellow, orange, or red, depending on the severity of my “offenses”) and/or detention slips for parental signature and considering their job done?!?

    If I sound bitter & resentful, maybe I am. So sue me! 👺

    Maybe if I’d been lucky enough to have had even one TRULY GREAT teacher LIKE THIS (although not all the teachers I had over the years were “bad” per sé, still, IIRC, I don’t think there were ANY that could be called TRULY GREAT) I wouldn’t have felt like I was totally stupid & worthless for the majority of my life, in some ways even to this day — low, even non-existent self-esteem that was a major contributing factor in eventually becoming suicidal & self-injurious in HS and immediately thereafter! 😦

    Maybe if I’d had even JUST ONE, truly great teacher like this, I wouldn’t have gone from LOVING to read & learn to absolutely detesting school and actually having stomach pains and nausea most mornings — effects which still continue to this day (even though I’ve been “out of school” for years, I still get nauseous in the mornings when waking up — especially if I get up early in the morning, like around the time [6AM – 8AM] I’d have to get up to go to school) and maybe if I’d had EVEN ONE, just TRULY GREAT teacher like this, I wouldn’t have ended up dropping out of school before getting a college degree!!

    Seriously, WHERE were all these IMPECCABLE teachers during the around 20 years (counting the on & off years of college before dropping out completely) that I was in school from preschool to college??

    • Hi. I am so sorry that you feel as if you did not have awesome teachers. Without looking into your eyes as you share your feelings, I am sure that you truly feel saddened by your educational experience. And, as badly as I would like to hug away your negative memories, I can only encourage you to embrace the experience and see how it has given you the courage to pen your feelings so eloquently. Through your words, I can feel your pain and anguish. I wish you the best of luck.

    • I’m so sorry that you have these memories of your teachers….I too had similar experiences and I became a teacher much later on. I would like to encourage you to still accomplish whatever you want to. I got my 2nd college degree at 43. It’s never too late to do what you want to do. Don’t allow your unfortunate experiences define who you are. You know more than anyone else the true you. To try and answer your question “where were all these great teachers when you were in school?” I cannot speak for them but I can say that now you’re an adult, you can choose who you allow to be your inspiration. Everyone has a gift and talent, find yours and make your change in this world. I hope this helps….

  120. I’m a teacher in Texas and I’ll tell you why I teach. It’s the students! We love our job because of them. The tables were turned on me this year. At 40 years old I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had to miss a lot of school for appointments, chemo treatments, sure exhaustion mentally and physically. Who rallied around me in such support, my students! Current and former. We are all doing the best we can and many times these students walk away and we don’t know what kind of impact we have made. They make the impact on us! For example, after returning to work after losing all my hair, I was an emotional wreck. Kids will be honest with you, they speak the truth. One of my students ran up to me, threw her arms around me and said, “Mrs Perez, it’s so great to see you, how are you feeling?” I said I felt great, but I just looked weird. She cocked her head to the side and without hesitation said, “no you don’t!” And kept hugging me. I knew I would be ok. That’s why we come back year after year!

  121. Thank you so much for this! I love my students. I just left a school after 12.5 years. I’ll miss seeing those sweet ones come back to visit me, but this reminds me I’ve taken them with me in my heart.

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  123. When I read this, I was so moved. But I was also thinking that someone was writing my thoughts. I have twin boys, one of whom is autistic and the other was slightly behind in fine motor skills. The school they went to worked with both of them and now one is going into 1st grad with no issues and is off an IEP (special education plan). The other has had outbursts at school and has refused to get back on the bus. They have gone above and beyond to calm him down and even had his favorite teacher (or let him pick someone) to get on the bus with him. This doesn’t always happen but they have always called me when it does, just to give me a heads up. I have even gone to the class to find him and his aide sitting side by side, one arm each wrapped around each other doing a project! I tell them every day how much we are thankful for all the help and work they have done for not only him but his brother too. I can only hope that they swing by for their birthday party! The boys would love to see them eve if it’s only for a minute or two. Thank you again for writing this article!

  124. Thanks so much for shining a bright light on our profession. From day 1, we grow to love and care for each of those precious faces you entrust to us. It is a huge responsibility, a tad overwhelming some days, but rewarding every day. We aren’t as unselfish as you portray us to be. You see there are triumphs that we get to experience that you don’t always get to see. We get to experience the “aha” moments, see their eyes dance when they conquer that daunting task, and watch them walk down the hallway with an extra skip in their step when they reach their goals. We thrive on these triumphs, they serve as gentle reminders to us that we are in it for the outcome, not for the income.

  125. Thank you so much for writing this! I am an educator myself, and every single part of this made me think about certain students in the past, whom I was just doing what came natural to me. And you are so right, we don’t know that we are making that kind of difference in the process of things! I definitely shed a few tears reading this! I work in the Houston area. Every Texas teacher I have met is seriously outstanding!

  126. I am a sub teacher and sub every day. I have a short time to teach a lesson and hope they retain the clues I leave to remember what the key point was for the day. The latest was geometry and after all the struggles for the 5 weeks we were together and really struggling, the/my students were not only in class, but I had some spares. Although, failing the quizzes, they all passed the class with mainly C’s and above. All the struggles, they eventually see you are willing to do what it takes, so they understand at where ever they are in the learning process. What a great reward. Some subs step up and fill those tough shoes for the day so that the teacher can comfortably take a day off to recoup or go to continuing education classes. Please let your children we are there for them too and will protect them for that day and be there for them also.

  127. I still remember my Kindergarten teachers name 30 years later because of this very reason. She cared so much about her students she made us feel loved she visited us at home even took me to the movies after I had surgery and had to lay out of school she took donations and even her own money to buy me a Popple bank in my favorite color. She came up with crafts and cool ways of teaching us things so that we would never forget. We made recipe books and other stuff. I don’t know how to spell her name but she will always be in my heart, Her husband and kids were always so sweet to us students. Mrs.Betzer I know its spelled wrong but she taught in Quartz Hill Ca in the elementary school around 86 as a Kindergarten teacher she was married and had 2 or 3 girls and later on she was divorced that was the last I heard. We moved a lot growing up.

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  129. So now I am crying. I try to be that teacher. I really, truly do, because I was blessed to have those teachers – the ones who really cared. I teach college, but students still need support. I just hope I am doing half the good that your daughter’s teachers are.

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  131. I am a teacher because of those wonderful teachers I had growing up. I am the lucky one -a fourth grade teacher who gets to laugh and cry with my kids, be silly and serious, go to their graduations, celebrate their successes, mourn with them in their sadnesses, dance at their weddings, and be invited to the hospital to hold their first born children (with tears flowing down my face). What other job could my life change every day? I am the lucky one. Thank you for your blog, it touched my heart as I prepare for a new school year.

  132. This was a beautiful tribute to teachers.I taught Preschool for 25 years.I would like to see you put this in print. A small book…? It would be great to donate the funds towards Autism Research.

  133. My parents were teachers. My sister and a first cousin are teachers know. They know what they are doing. It is the reason they are teachers. Thank you for seeing that good teachers teach more than the facts of their prepared lessons.

  134. My mum is chronically ill. As she can’t drive I’ve had various teachers go above and beyond: Driving me home when I bumped my head, driving me home after camp when no-one could collect me, taking me home with them then driving me back to school for a concert because I had no way to get there.
    A few teachers are like family. One sent me a Christmas card the year after she left my school. One I am friends with on facebook. Incidentally, so is my niece as he taught her 11 years after me and he has known her since she was a baby. I’ve met his wife and kids on several occasions.

    These wonderful teachers certainly taught me about care and compassion – gifts I use just as much as literacy and numeracy.

  135. The other thing they don’t know is that the impact lasts a lifetime, and, every now and then, creates the spark for another amazing teacher.

  136. Love this positive story about teachers! Our foster son has an amazing teacher who goes above and beyond each and every day for him while he struggles at school. She is worth her weight in gold. Our family is so blessed to have her as our son’s teacher this year.

  137. Such a nice tribute to teachers.
    Attitude of gratitude is appreciated but its not why teachers do all that they do. Its because of love in their hearts for children ( people).
    The two greatest commandments stand out ( in most teachers I know) that serve the way described here; to Love God with all heart, soul, &
    mind and Love others as
    He has loved us (sacrificially)
    Matthew 22: 37-40.
    Its a matter of the heart as I see it.

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  139. I am a teacher going into my 17 year. Both my parents were teachers retiring this past year. My dad–45 years and my mom–41 years. I try everyday to start over fresh for my students. They are my kids for that year. I have kids come back to visit, volunteer in my classroom. The love for the children is why we teach. I have gotten down on the floor and held and cried with many students over the years. I have laughed and reminisced with many students.
    I teach at the same school attend. Both of my girls have been blessed with great teachers. This year both girls teachers came to see them compete in their dance competition. Last year my oldest daughters teacher drove a long way to see her compete in a national dance competition. This year my youngest daughters teacher let her help in her summer school classroom and bought her milkshakes. My daughter had a test one day so she couldn’t go. Before the test she begged to go see the teacher. The teacher hugged her and said that everything would be ok. She texted us a week after the test to find out the results. She texted my daughter to say have a good vacation and that she can’t wait to hear about it when we get back.
    These individuals give of their time and money to educate and make the lives of their students the best they can.
    I am honored and blessed to part of a staff at my school who genuinely loves and cares for our kids.
    Thank you for your post.

  140. As a kid I wanted to be like Miss Honey in Matilda. The way she’s this gentle hearted teacher who cares for her students like they were her own kids. For years I wanted to be a teacher but it never worked out for one reason or another. We’re considering homeschooling when the time comes but we have a few years to think about that.

    I was blessed with some amazing teachers over the years.

    I have two throw up stories. Both times because the teacher didn’t believe me when I said I felt sick. On both occasions they helped me get cleared up. Mrs R in Year 4 and Mrs W in Year 6. Actually Mrs W comes to the same knitting group as I attend now and still recounts the story lol. *so embarassing*

    Mrs S who took me to the First Aid room when I split open my Head in Year 8 after head butting a window.

    Miss W who gave me a massive hug when I fell out with my friends and spent the best part of a week hiding in the music department.

    When I was in Year 12/13 there was a lad who bullied me for one reason or another in a sense. Some days he wanted to be my boyfriend other days he didn’t. Talk about a mind screw. Anyway one particular day I’d really had it I had a free period and had been working on some homework. I stormed out of the classroom I was working in and walked straight into Mr B (head of drama). Like full of snotty crying teenager walking face first into my teacher’s chest. Thankfully he saw the funny side and gave me a hug.

    Mr B (same Mr B from above in fact), Mrs B and Miss W who probably should have turned me away when I got my AS results, kept me in the Sixth Form so I could stay and in the end I got to uni and got my degree. They explained that chances are I wouldn’t be able to pull my grades up much higher than one or two grades so from E to C for example but if I wanted to stay they would do what they could to help me.

  141. Thank you so much! It is nice to be appreciated. Sounds like your family has been blessed with amazing teachers! 🙂

  142. this means a lot. we go back to work next week and sometimes you feel like nothing you do makes a difference. thanks for reminding me that even when we don’t see it there is progress. test scores are not the best measure of growth.

  143. This made me cry, as a person going into teaching as a second career, I sometimes question my choice (but never my vocation) it seems like a tough time to be a teacher. When I read something like this, it makes my heart smile. We really are the good guys, people who are waiting for Superman, will be waiting a long time, none of us are superheroes, we are just normal loving humans who care and want to make a difference.

    • Made me cry too. I was a full time teacher for 20 years and have worked as a freelance storyteller/teacher in many classrooms. It’s so true that so so many teachers go way beyond their job description. Thank you for honoring them. I can’t believe you have triplets AND write a blog. BRAVO.

  144. Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel like I am the luckiest person in the world and value every minute I get to spend with my students. And yes I will meet them for dinner when the student asks me, I do spend my summer helping those that need just enough so their confidence is up for the new school year (without pay) and yes I love when my students feel special because I can relate to them in social situations. I love all of this not for the pay or even for the attention…quite frankly I would be fine in my own quiet world. But knowing that my smile or comment can make a difference in their lives is what is important. Most people don’t realize all we put into our classrooms and that’s ok…they can continue to think I only work 9 months out of the year and only 6 hrs a day at that. Watching these children grow up secure in their education and their own selves is all I need. I am thankful each and every day for my opportunity to make a difference in children’s lives.

  145. As a retired special education teacher, I can vouch for the fact that a simple thank you is so appreciated. You went above and beyond with this ….thanks! You are a special Mom for putting this into words..we DO love OUR children, and feel they are ours as well as yours. Best wishes to you.

  146. What loving teacher you were blessed with. How lucky your children were to have so many more adults that loved them. I noticed you had a child named Stiles. Is that a family name? My son is also named Stiles and I have not heard any other child with that name. Our Stiles is named after his great grandfater Stiles Burr. I would love to know how your daughter was named Stiles.

    • How cool!!! Yes, its a family name. My brother’s middle name is Stiles and was the last name of a friend of my parents from high school . We’ve never met another Stiles. My Stiles is 15. How old is yours?

  147. Thank you for sharing the wonderful journeys that your daughters have had with their teachers! I guarantee you that your beautiful comments are appreciated by every educator who reads them! We are blessed to have students like your daughters and parents who support them. Yes, it is true that educators are not paid what we are worth by a long shot, but for me, moments like you shared cannot be bought with money! I loved my teaching career and am so grateful for every single student that I had, even the ones that sometimes drove me bonkers! THANK YOU AGAIN! Blessings to you and your family.

  148. Thank you so much! I will begin my sixth year teaching this fall and I love every minute. Today I received an invitation to a students birthday party! I hope my students know just how much they are loved!

  149. This is an amazing truth about teachers that I had and was fortunate enough to work beside, so blessed are we . Loved teaching and each student was a diamond waiting to be polished , 💚👏👏👏💚💚💚💚

  150. I am a retired 7th grade special education teacher. Always believing that the apple never falls far from the tree- it is easy to see why your triplets are so loved. You have instilled in them a love and respect for their teachers… something so special.

    I am fortunate to still be in touch with many of my students. I will be attending a wedding this September of a former student who is like a daughter to me. How fortunate and blessed am I? (very much so!)

    Thank you for paying tribute to a most special group of people!

  151. When Facebook told me that 2 of my friends had shared this post, I have to admit that I could immediately feel myself starting to get upset just at the title. I clicked through anyway to read it and see if it justified if I should change my feelings about my friends if they truly believed that teachers don’t know what they’re doing.

    Then I read it. And cried. Because I *was* that teacher, but had to walk away because the crushing disrespect and over-regulation from clueless administrators, politicians, and parents was just too much to keep from destroying me. So now I am working in a job I don’t love (but is far less frustrating and depressing) and continue to keep in touch with my former students online and at their sports, etc. events. I’ve even had temporary custody of one for a period of time when she couldn’t stay in her home environment!

    It isn’t the same though. I love teaching. I love “my kids” and I miss it dearly, but the educational field is not what it used to be… or what it SHOULD be and that makes me very bitter. Thanks for appreciating how hard teachers try to be who we know the kids need, despite everything else getting in the way. ❤

    • I too walked down your path, and it’s taken 42 years to acknowledge that there are some good parents still out there who appreciate good teachers.

  152. This made me cry, too. I’m about to start my 27th year as a high school teacher. Teaching is getting so hard, and this reminded me why I go back year after year. It helped me regain some focus at the end of a very long hard year when I said just hours ago that I wished I could find something else to do. It’s not the kids that make it hard; it’s everything else. Thank you for sharing your story.

  153. Thank you so much – vomit, blood, bones, suicide, concerts, after hours activities, oh and just teaching, wouldn’t miss it for the world. So proud of my lovely and sometimes challenging students and their wonderful parents:)

  154. I’m a teacher from WI and this brought tears to my eyes. It seems today we received more angry phone calls than thank yous, from parents and from the community. In Wisconsin alone, we are facing slander against our character, pay, benefits, and dedication to the job. It is a shame people don’t view us this way for the most part anymore, I can tell you I didn’t get into teaching for the paycheck, it was for the kids. My students take up just as much of my heart as my family does. All summer I think about them, worry about them, check up on them. As much as I enjoy the break to re-energize and prepare for the next school year, that last day is extremely hard to say goodbye and be apart for the summer. We teachers pour our heart and soul into our work, it is so much more than a job, and it is wonderful to hear appreciation for it.

  155. Thank you for your beautiful post. I have been teaching for 16 years, and this one may be my last. There is just too much other “stuff” happening in education, and it’s making it hard for me to do what I love which is to build relationships with my students. Thank you for reminding me that those relationships do matter and are fondly remembered outside the walls of the classroom. Best to you and your children!

  156. Hi. As a teacher/ guidance counselor for 25 years I can honestly say to you that you just described most of my colleagues. I’m going to share your story with them. It brought tears to my eyes as I read it. As I begin my new school year on Monday, I will take with me in my heart and mind your story to help remind me why I chose to teach so many years ago. Thank you!!!

  157. When I was in 5th grade I was often the target of what would be now called bullying (just part of life back then in the mid ’70’s). I remember telling people when they asked about school, that I didn’t like school, but I did like my teacher. She found the thing that I loved most, reading, and allowed me to read to the class everyday after lunch. Of course others wanted a turn, and she occasionally allowed them, but the kids would actually ask if I could read, because I read better! She allowed me to shine where I could and I have never forgotten that bit of kindness.

  158. Thanks for the teachers who care enough to go above and beyond their duty and really care about their students who will be the leaders of our cities, counties, states and nation someday. Teachers of today are really the foundation of tomorrow.

  159. My sister is a teacher. My grandmother was a teacher. I think more teachers are like this than the opposite. Maybe not all go as far all the time, but most of them try to do the right thing as often as they can. Even though I am not a teacher, I want to thank you on behalf of all the awesome teachers out there for so eloquently calling out all the things teachers do.

  160. Thank for sharing the special relationship between your children and their teachers.
    My favorite line is when you stated that your child’s heart was entwined with their teacher’s heart. That is teaching in a nutshell for me. My students are so much more to me than just a group of kids assigned to me for the duration of the school year. They are forever entwined within my heart and I am genuinely interested and concerned with every aspect of their lives…even beyond the months in which they are in my class. I truly believe that it’s the relationship with the children in our care that can make the biggest difference in their future. The willingness to be invested in the lives of the students is what makes good teachers become great teachers!

  161. I totally cried as I read this. I am so happy to hear that your kids have the benefit of such wonderful educators in their lives!
    Sadly not all teachers are like this, but thankfully MANY do go above and beyond like you described.

    I remembered a couple of wonderful teachers I have had and hope that my kids also have amazing teachers in their future.

  162. Wonderful example of just how wonderful the majority of teachers really are! We should all reflect on this and take a moment to thank them for their commitment, which goes far-beyond the teaching the content. As noted in this story, they provide so much more and the imprint they leave on students is very profound. All of us can think of those really special teachers who helped us through a variety of trials and tribulations in our school careers!

    Thanks for sharing!

  163. Beautiful. I was very fortunate throughout my years at school to have some of the most incredible teachers, as did my younger siblings.

    My 3rd grade teacher was my grandma’s next door neighbor. I grew up playing in the yard with her son. When it was my sisters turn for 3rd grade, she was so painfully shy she was afraid to raise her hand to ask to go to the bathroom, and was regularly having accidents because of it. Mrs Z asked for her to be in her class, and before school started, sat down with my sister and told her that if she needed to go and she was too afraid to ask, she could just take the hall pass and go. By the end of the year, she was finally comfortable enough to raise her hand and ask permission, just because Mrs Z was so patient.

    In high school, I was really struggling with a huge paper that counted for a pretty big portion of both my English and History classes. Mrs Waz sat down with me after class, helped me through the problem, and then just talked to me. When I broke down crying because I was so stressed, she just hugged me and let me cry and reminded me that it was just school, and that everything would work out. The encouragement and help got me through the rest of that paper, and I ended up doing some of my best work.

    College was where I had some of the absolute best teachers, though. In my 3rd year, my grandpa was dying of lung cancer, and every single one of my teachers was happy to relax their cell phone policies so that I could take emergency phone calls if there was a problem. They regularly asked me how he was doing, and how I was dealing. When he passed, I took a week off of school to help my family with arrangements, prepare my eulogy, and support my younger siblings and cousins. All my professors allowed the absences as excused, and gave me extensions. The English Department, my chosen field, as well as the Activities Council I was co-heading sent flowers and called regularly during the week to check on me. The following year, my boyfriend was in a serious car accident and remained in the ICU for more than a month. I was spending every possible second driving an hour back and forth to get to the hospital to see him. I had an insane work load, and I was functioning almost entirely on caffeine and luck. On my way back to campus from the hospital around the 3rd week, I nearly wrecked my car doing 90 down the highway because I fell asleep behind the wheel of my car. All of my teachers had been really supportive, allowing me to take calls from his family during class and occasionally relaxing a deadline for me. Again, they asked at the beginning of every class how he was doing. Shortly after I fell asleep behind the wheel, one of my professors asked me to visit her office. We discussed my class work and how I was keeping up, and she called attention to my exhaustion. She recommended several strategies for managing my stress levels, and several ways to help combat my exhaustion. She shared a few driving tired tips she learned from her husband.

    Teachers really don’t know what they are doing. I learned so many more important things from my teachers than just book knowledge.

  164. As one of the youngest kids in 11th grade, I was going to have to wait until after the summer to get my “Behind the Wheel” training (our school provided drivers ed). Several of our teachers gave us lessons during their lunch breaks in finals week so we could get our permits for the summer.

  165. Thank you so much for writing this! I am getting my degree right now and the outlook for education just gets bleaker and bleaker. Thank you for reminding me of all the wonderful aspects of teaching! I really needed this!!

  166. This retired teacher is so grateful for your kind words. You sound like a gift to teachers: a kind, thoughtful parent. Your children are a blessing to the teachers.

  167. I am 70 years old, so it has been a long time since I was in school. I was in the 6th grade, and the first year to have a male teacher. He was over six feet talk, big guy with a horse gruffly voice. Just to look at him was scary. He was one of my favorite teachers all the way thru school. We had a boy in our class that everyone liked, but he would get bad grades on his work. Before the end of the year, this teacher told all of us one day that this boy would not be going on to the 7th grade with the rest of the class. The boy was not in the room, he was down in the library with a teacher looking for a certain book the teacher sent him for. He explained that this friend of ours was kind, smart, and a very nice young man. But he had trouble learning things out of a book, the way the rest of us learned. He explained that the next year he was going to a special school were he would learn things by being shown how to do it instead of reading about it. We never teased this boy, but our teacher told us that no-one was to say anything to him about failing his grade, or make fun of him. We were to treat him like we always had and tell him good luck at his new school and to come back and visit us. This boy’s father owned a business, and this boy grew up learning this business and was the owner and ran it himself after his father retired. He was a respected business man in the community. Twenty years later, my son started school were this teacher was the principle, I was shocked when I walked in and seen him. He looked and me and called me by my name, and there were a few tears and a couple of hugs. These kind of teachers are hard to come by now days, but they are still out there. The teachers are doing their job it is the parents that are not teaching the children how to show respect, behave in the classroom, treat everyone kind, and helping them at night with school work. The teachers can’t say anything, or do anything to make them behave. My husband always looked at our children’s conducted scores on the report cards, he said if the conduct scores were good and the grade was a little low in a subject, it was because they were having some trouble understanding, not because they were acting up in class not paying any attention. Parents everyday when your child goes off to school, say a quick prayer for your child and the teachers to have a good day.

  168. In my community, one teacher’s 6th grade “kids” starting with those in about 1973, regularly meet and have parties with their beloved teacher now. If they live out of town and are visiting, they always make a visit to their favorite teacher. Someone always has dinner with him a least once a week, now that his wife has passed. Facebook brought everyone together initially. I was in a neighboring city, and I now which I was in this teacher’s class! Fond memories of those I did have, that helped me become the person I am today. Let’s not forget also teacher’s aides, therapists, secretaries, that give their heart to these kids too.

  169. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This story just made my day so bright. I would do anything for my babies, and it hurts me when society blames, and downright disrespects teachers. Thank you again.

  170. Were any of these teachers watching the other troubled children, the less “acting out” ones, the ones whose pain could not be seen but whose pain was just as real but who “knew better” than to share the anguish inside them? Get real, people. Kids are suffering but we only pay attention to the ones who vocalize or dramatize their suffering. Listen to the silent ones too!! What about the other two triplets? They were hardly oblivious. Rebecca (PhD and 45 years as a teacher)

  171. There are lots of people that think teachers do a great job. They are the ones who are involved with their children and realize what all you do that does not fall within your job description. If anyone feels like they lack in doing something, don’t take the praise from the rest of the teachers, let them enjoy it for all they did right!

  172. I taught for 33 years and have been blessed with wonderful students who still contact me after I retired 7 years ago. It is so refreshing to read these stories that I have lived. Teaching is a not a profession, it is an act of love for children and the subject that you teach. Thank you for this wonderful insight to the world of a teacher which is fantastic.

  173. Thank you so very much for your kind words for teachers. I will be starting my 29th year of teaching in a few weeks, and I can’t imagine doing any other job! I’ve been so blessed through the years to have the most wonderful students and parents, and have loved my job so much. In light if what’s been happening I. The field of education lately, it’s nice to be appreciated for the job we do every day! I hope your children have another wonderful school year.

  174. I am a teacher who is becoming a consultant of teachers for a company called Climate & Culture Connection that values the art of teachers leading themselves so that they have the freedom to better lead young people. It is funny how many teachers don’t associate themselves as “leaders”….that somehow the gift of guiding children is not as prestigious and important as a CEO “leading” a company. Teachers are the most powerful and influential leaders of all because their “product” is the infinite potential of young hearts and minds.

  175. Thank you for your beautiful words! I have been a Special Education teacher for 15 years and cannot imagine doing anything else. Even my children at home call my students my kids. So much of what we do is just that, what we do. I was so happy to read the wonderful experiences that your children and family have had with teachers.

  176. As someone who’s about to become s teacher this was a beautiful article to read. Thank you for the kind words to the teachers in your children’s lives–sounds like you were blessed with some good ones!

  177. my older son loved his 1st grade teacher, a strict old school Catholic Irish teacher.. while most kids didnt like how strict she was my son loved how she had structure and rules.. she is and will always be his favorite teacher… my younger son loved his 2nd grade teacher.. she made teaching fun even though it was hard she knew how to connect with her students.. he never wanted to miss a day of school and cried when he had to miss one day in 2nd grade! LOL

  178. As the new school year approaches for many; my wish is that all children have a caring and loving teacher. P.S. My own kiddos started last week at CHE…I recognize Ms. Cooper 🙂

  179. I must admit….I read the title of your post (which I found shared on FB) and I thought to myself, ‘Oh great……another one of those parents who think they understand the complexity and stresses of the art and passion of teaching.’ Wow….thank you. I had tears in my eyes as I read your blog posting. There ARE lots of teachers who do many wonderful things for children. Unfortunately, those teachers aren’t the teachers who the media focus on when they’re bashing public education. Teachers who truly care for children are those who DO make it past the average 5 years of teaching (that’s when most teachers burn out). Keep spreading the word. Keep telling your stories about how teachers DO make a difference, and that they’re more interested in teaching the love of learning than they are about teaching kids to take tests. Our classrooms have to change! Our passionate teachers need to be the voice about bringing back the love of learning.

  180. I am a teacher and I can honestly say that my students are “my kids.” Yes I have biological children as well but I think about “my kids”… aka students all the time. If you are in teaching for the right reasons you will celebrate with them, worry for them, and even hold their hair back when they’re sick. I keep the parents informed with text messages and pictures at random times throughout the day because I know they and I share that common interest, which is their child, and I would want someone else to have that same level of care and dedication to my own children :).

  181. Both of my parents are teachers. As a child of teachers I spent many days wondering if they cared more about their students then their own kids LOL As a grown up I realized they were so endlessly dedicated to the betterment of all their kids, biological and students. I was crying my face off reading this, this described my parents to a T. My father was a teacher and a coach, he spent endless hour mentoring these kids and writing college recommendations for all his athletes, he was so invested in their lives and well-being, at that time and through the future, he wanted to see them all in the college of their choice making a future for themselves. My mother and her never ending patience, worked with developmentally disabled children her whole career, she knew what to do for each child as an individual and she taught me so much about interacting with all types of people. I’m so proud of them and the impact they had on their students lives. Thank you for this post, I’m so glad to know your children had the greatest teachers ever!!

  182. As a retired special education teacher with 35 years at inner-city schools in grades K-12, I thank you for your kind and generous words. I always spoke of my students as “my kids” no matter how small or tall they were. Even today, I am Facebook friends with many of my former students (even those I didn’t have in the classroom), and am so proud of so many of them. Despite difficult circumstances many are now college graduates and pursuing wonderful careers. It was the caring and concern of many of my colleagues that encouraged these students to reach for the stars and they DID!!! It takes a villages and teachers play an important part in that village!!! Thanks again you made my day!!!’

  183. Wow – fantastic words! From a teacher who is halfway through my career- I am sitting here crying about what a beautiful post this is!

  184. Every year I taught at least 100 students a day. I was the lucky one. They had one teacher, I had 100. Thanks to all my students from Butler High School in Louisville, my.

  185. Thank you for your kind thoughts and words. I’ve spent 20 years teaching young children and it means so much to have families express their appreciation for teachers. We do it because we love it! Teaching is what I was destined to do and it brings me so much joy!

  186. It’s not often that a teacher hears words like this. Your kids teachers are ver blest to have a family who resp care s and appreciates them as much as you do!

  187. No truer words have ever been spoken. There are teachers my children always talk about. Thank you to those special angels who have had patience beyond, way, way beyond, expectation. Mrs. Fritz, Ms. Ruechhoff, Ms, chancy, Mr. Reinecker, Ms. Neimeyer, Mr. Remain, and so many terrific people at Lindbergh. THANK YOU

  188. We aren’t allowed to hold touch stroke a student… thrilled there are places where showing care are nd compassion lives on

  189. Thanks for your kind words. Teachers all over are getting discouraged by such bad press and low pay that they are leaving the field in droves! I am lucky to have over 40 years in the classroom and it went by so quickly…but I am glad I am now at the end instead of the beginning….thanks, parents for letting me love your children!
    Ellen Gerbracht

  190. Thank you for the kind words. I am a special education teacher and absolutely love what I do. My students are like my own children. I could not imagine myself in an other career. The students are amazing! And I blessed everyday to get to teach.

  191. I am a retired first grade teacher and really appreciated all the encouraging words for teachers who are”in the trenches” now! Teaching is a calling and the reward is seeing children grow, learn, make new friends and handle life! Loved all the entries! I miss “my kids” and always felt respected,loved and appreciated by the families and children I invested my time and my life into over the years!

  192. What a beautiful collection of sweet stories of teachers who went above and beyond. I hope if you are changing school districts with your move, that your kids have just as wonderful teachers there.

  193. I’m a retired teacher. Teachers are special. Today I had the opportunity to listen to one of my students that I taught at least 20 years ago. She needed someone to share her illness with and troubles she is going through. At the end of the conversation she thanks me for comforting her. We will talk again soon, I’m on voice dial. Students do become family and it is fun to watch them grow and have children of their own. I loved teaching. Teaching is a gift from God

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  195. Hi Sis and All,

    I got to teach/ reach/ learn, and team with parents and teachers with their special needs kids my whole life, so I know that beautiful things happen when we attune deeply to one another, in faith, hope, and love, etc. And “The greatest of these is Love”. : – )

  196. Having been a head custodian for over 15 years I can personally say this story is spot on. Teachers care so much for their students. All the staff at our schools do. (maybe not doing the vomit thing) but they love their jobs and the students.
    Being the husband of a teacher, I learned a long time ago not to question whose money, and how much is being spent on the classroom.
    Loved reading this story.

  197. This was a great article. These teachers sound amazing and that they go above and beyond for their students. These children obviously hold a special place in the teachers’ hearts. I wish all parents felt this way about teachers. I’m a teacher in New Jersey and unfortunately we are being met with such negativity, much of which is being fueled by our governor. He is very vocal about his dislike of the teaching profession and those in it. Sadly most people think it is a 9-3 job with summers off. They do not have any idea of what being a teacher entails. It’s nice to read about people who support us!

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  199. None of us teach for the money-it’s all about our kids. I call all of my students my kids and I love them unconditionally. I will do whatever they need to be successful. It’s really heartwarming to read a blog like this because it reminds us that we are appreciated.

  200. I am a teacher at Chaguanas North Secondary, Trinidad and Tobago! There are 100 of us on staff and we go beyond the call of duty daily. I have benefited from doing such. My former students ensure that when I shop at their workplaces I get the biggest discounts and hugs. Even had a former student pay for my monthly groceries at one time and also bought a bottle of champagne too!

  201. Here in oregon. They dont care. They just push them to grade to grade. Then in high its like your kid wont do anything. Well. Duh! Ive been trying to get help, since kindergarden. Then they still dont help. (Well your child is flunking, yea that’s why he has an IEP and your suppose to be helping them). Its been hopeless

  202. My wife and I are retired teachers and school administrators. Teaching isn’t something that can be learned in college. It is truly a gift of God! Not every person can become an effective teacher because they lack that love of kids. I think back to all of the wonderful experiences that I’ve had with my former students. As a matter of fact one of my former students became a nurse and attended me during my recent trip to the hospital. To anybody that is thinking about entering the teaching profession, the best thing that you can do is learn how to listen, and don’t be too quick to judge. Take your kids where they are and love them, they’ll do anything for you. Often you’ll have more fun with the underachievers than the achievers. They’ll do anything for you when they love you!

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  204. I teach in NEISD. This is my 27th year overall…19th in NEISD. Thank you for the article. I very much enjoyed my lunches this summer with former students and my 5 days in Waco watching a couple of my boys from this year as they played in the Southwest Regional Little League tournament.
    (Are you sure they aren’t paying me for these things?) 😉

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